How Does Unhealthy Shame Affect Your Relationships?
Discover how unhealthy shame impacts relationships. Learn how to recognize and overcome shame-based patterns and love yourself.
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Serving California Residents with HIPAA-secure Video Therapy
Mailing address: 3123 W. Ave. L 8, Lancaster, CA 93536
Phone: 661-233-6771
Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples of All Kinds
Is this you?
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You keep having the same argument or issue in your relationship.
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One of you chases while the other distances.
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You withdraw when triggered, leaving your partner confused.
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You panic when your partner goes silent, fearing they might leave.
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Past memories from childhood or previous relationships surface during conflicts.
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You say or do things you regret, causing your partner to pull away.
Navigating love relationships can be tough, especially if you lacked good role models growing up. While romantic movies make relationships seem easy, you might experience pain and confusion when trying to connect with your partner. Building a successful partnership requires time and intention. Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples can help you repair relationship issues and reconnect with why you fell in love.
Many factors can put your relationship at risk.
Have you experienced a significant loss and are struggling to connect through your grief? Some losses, like the death of a child or family member, hit especially hard. Trauma and loss can lead to withdrawal or a need for specific support, but you may not know what you need from your partner or how to ask for it. If one or both of you suffers from complex PTSD (C-PTSD) and unresolved family issues, maintaining your relationship can feel exhausting.
If you're part of the LGBTQ+, kink, or polyamorous communities, the lack of typical societal support can add extra strain. This stress can impact not just you but also your children, family, friends, and even pets. We're wired to connect, so we inevitably share each other's joy and pain.
Find each other again with inclusive couples counseling and relationship therapy
There was a time when your relationship felt good, or at least good enough for you to want to be together. You may have forgotten what drew you to your partner, but you can rediscover it. Even if you've lost hope in getting along, that's okay—we can work through it together. The benefits of getting outside help are tremendous when you consider the costs of loneliness, isolation, and even potential legal issues like divorce and custody battles.
How I Can Help Your Relationship
In our sessions, I’ll observe how you interact and gently guide you to understand both your own emotions and those of your partner. I’ll help you recognize when you’re drifting from loving, respectful communication and teach you how to get back on track. The more you identify and repair these negative patterns, the better you’ll understand each other. This leads to more compassionate interactions and better choices in how you communicate, creating a sustainable and enjoyable relationship.
You deserve to feel that connection and harmony with your partner again. If you're ready, please call me at 661-233-6771
Learn more about how trauma and grief affect your relationships
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